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Read answers to questions, comment ... or ask your own questions. If you're having any problems at home, school, or life, I'm happy to listen and give you my advice. Just send me question (anonymous) and I will I'll be happy to help.

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(Disclaimer: I am a senior in high school. This means although I do aspire to obtain a psychology degree, I realize there are some situations which I simply do not have the tools to deal with. So as long as the topic is not outside of my realm, I will do my best to help you and send you an answer.)

I have already taken a college level psychology course and plan to continue on this path.  Send me any questions about love, family and/or social life and I'll give you my honest perspective. Don't be shy; This is what I love, and I won't know it's you unless you wish to leave a name!

How Do I Stop Arguing With My Sibling So Much?

Dear Sydney…

Lately, things have been extremely heated in my household. It seems like every little thing leads to an argument between my sister and I. For a while I thought that this was all her fault. But I must be contributing to this as well…what can I do to reduce the conflict?

Whenever people live together, there is bound to be some conflict, so it is more beneficial to not place blame on any particular person too much for it. This isn’t all your sister’s fault, but it isn’t yours either! It takes two to argue. And many times, a big contributing factor to conflicts like these is simply a lack of communication. When living with another person, it is important to establish and respect boundaries. There will be certain things you may not know your sister dislikes that are conflict producing. And on the other hand, there will be things which you dislike your sister doing/saying. So, get together and make a list of “likes” and “dislikes”. Number them off as you go. For example…

LIKES-

  1. I like it when you ask me how my school day was.
  2. I like it when you help me clean up the kitchen.

DISLIKES-

  1. I don’t like it when you come into my room without knocking.
  2. I don’t like it when you ignore me.

Make sure that there are not more “dislikes” listed than “likes”. Also ensure that this is only constructive criticism. This isn’t to hurt each other, but instead to communicate boundaries better so that future pain can be prevented for the both of you. At the end of making your list, exchange and discuss openly.

At the end of the day, remember that love will get you through any conflict!!

–Sydney Johnson

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My entire life, I've always been drawn to the idea of helping others. As a young child, I was taught very early on the importance of kindness. And now as a young adult, I realize that many people struggle on a day to day basis with little to no people reaching out to give them a hand. When I realized that I could be a helpful resource for people and make a living at it too, I was so excited!

Other interests I have: In my free time, I usually play video games, hang out with friends, listen to music, write or play with my dog. I have a huge love for animals, music and people in general!

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