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How do I get Over Someone that Ghosts Me?

Dear Sydney… How do I get over a girl that ghosts me?   In order to answer this question, I must first address the two differing meanings of the term “ghosting”.  1. The act of either disappearing off of social media altogether, or disappearing from a specific person on it. This could mean a sudden lack of activity on media such as Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook etc.  It could also simply mean reading texts/messages but not responding to them, or not answering phone calls. 2. The act of completely disappearing out of someone’s personal life without a notable rhyme or reason. … Read more

I am shy. How can I begin to be/feel more natural around people?

Dear Sydney… I often times find myself feeling alone or left out. I feel like I don’t have many friends and I am worried that I will always feel this way. I honestly just don’t know how I can be more like myself around others because I am a naturally shy person. Do you have any advice for me? Before I fully address your question, I just want to let you know you are not the only one! As someone who used to be shy, I totally understand what you are going through. Loneliness is actually something we all encounter, … Read more

How do I maintain a friendship with a distancing/busy friend?

Dear Sydney… So I’ve been friends with this one person for a while now, and I feel like we connect really well…but the thing is, they’re very social and often can’t spend time with me. Often times when they are with me, I feel like they’re bored and I end up telling them to go talk to their other friends… even thought I actually don’t want that. What should I do?   I understand your situation entirely. As someone who has befriended a lot of overachievers, I’ve certainly had to experience some of this myself. It sounds like your friend is very … Read more

How Do I Make New Friends?

Dear Sydney, I don’t know, why but I am really struggling to make new friends. I recently moved in from another school and it just doesn’t feel the same. Any tips for meeting new people? As someone who has moved before, I understand what it is like to have to start all over again. You really miss the people you knew from before. Although it’s difficult, it is important to lose any expectations of the people you will reach out to. Instead… Keep in touch with your old friends as much as you can but keep your mind open to … Read more

How Do I Get Through My Junior Year?

Ah…the “big year”! I’ve had many people come to me about this. Honestly, the best way to get through the year is time management. Do whatever is necessary in terms of your workloads. If your teachers provide you with calendars, be sure to check them. (For example: If you check your schedules and see that you have 2 tests or more in a week, plan ahead. Make plans with your friends for after the tests. Or even better, get together to study with a couple of classmates instead!) Another way to help yourself focus is to eliminate any distractions. (For … Read more